All My Children

When children quarrel, it does not mean that they are abnormal. Nor are they going to become social outcasts or juvenile delinquents. Most children have every chance in the world to become sensible young people, provided they are handled right. Parents should not make too much out of these occasional spats. Children can learn to get along with others if they are allowed to grow and develop normally. But if the quarrels are too frequent, something must be done to help.

If he is just acting this way, there is no doubt that some problem needs to be solved, and parents should never rest until they have found the cause of this strange behavior.

If your child is physically ill, he should be treated by a physician. If he is emotionally ill, he may need help from some good family counselor. Every child wants to grow up and become a strong, sensible adult. To do this he must be surrounded in his own home with an atmosphere of security and affection. Biting criticism will never solve the problem. What he needs is someone who can help him meet the problems of childhood and provide him with a background of stability for the rest of his days.

When Should you Intervene Children Misbehavior?

When an older person sees one child hurting another, what should he do? Hit him back? Perhaps so. But usually this is not wise, for the well-meaning adult can be easily misunderstood. Whenever young children play together, someone is likely to be hurt. But adults should be careful about rushing in to “pay him back.” Most active children can take care of themselves fairly well. Much depends upon the circumstances of the act.

Some children may hurt others without realizing what they are doing. Perhaps the child just has to “let off steam.” A careful explanation might be all that is needed to prevent further trouble. But the situation is quite different when a child persists in hurting another. For this there is always some valid reason, such as jealousy. This should never be overlooked. Serious emotional problems may thus arise, causing trouble in future years. It is better to find the cause and remove it now.

Should such a child be allowed to continue hurting another? Of course not. Every child has to learn to get along with those around him. He must learn to respect their rights and feelings. In other words, he must become civilized, for he lives in a civilized community. But do not become too disturbed over a little aggressive behavior. If the child is properly trained, you have little to fear. Much depends on how you handle him now.

For the child’s own peace of mind he must be prevented from harming others. Deep within himself he knows he must not do this. But it may be difficult for him to control his actions. This is where a wise parent can help. Someone nearby must be able to control him, not by force but by love and kindness. When he is sure that someone loves and understands him, he will soon realize that there are limits of behavior beyond which he must not go. This is the responsibility of the parents at home and the teachers at school.

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