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Teenager Ache in the Groin

A boy who is involved in petting which causes him to have erections for long periods without orgasm is apt to develop an ache which seems to be located vaguely in the lower abdomen or in the groin (the groove between abdomen and thigh) or in the testicles. This ache may last for a day or so at a time. The medical name for the condition is varicocele.

Erection of the penis is brought about partly by a constriction of the veins which lead the blood away from the penis. This same constriction causes an engorgement of the veins coming from the testicles and the seminal vesicles and this is the explanation of the ache in varicocele. In Nature’s scheme of things, sexual excitement is expected to lead to intercourse with orgasm, and that puts an end to the constriction of the veins. A boy who is made uncomfortable by this aching yet who desires to continue the petting may be able to solve the problem by allowing or encouraging himself to have an orgasm at such times. This suggestion is made on the assumption that he has been trying all along to hold the orgasm back because he thought it might be embarrassing to have the emission of semen in his clothes. But the amount is really small and though he may be very conscious of this, it is unlikely that it will be noticeable to his girl or anyone else.

Teenager Impotence

Sexual impotence is the inability for a boy or man to have an effective erection and ejaculation. (Impotence should be differentiated from infertility—which, in the case of a man, usually means that his sperm have proved incapable of fertilising his wife’s ova; on laboratory examination his sperm may be shown to be inactive.) Some impotent men have very little erection and no ejaculation. Others have an inadequate erection and, right away, an ejaculation. (Ejaculatio praecox is the Latin term for this, meaning a premature ejaculation, before there is adequate erection for inserting the penis in the vagina.)

There are two types of impotence which are more or less normal. An adolescent boy who has been very strictly brought up in regard to sex and girls may have little or no erection in the first year or so of his dates. Then he may gradually develop a normal potency. At the opposite end of the age scale, most men in their sixties and seventies become progressively more impotent. (There is little lessening of their interest in sex and women.)

A few cases of lifelong impotence are due to physical disease or injury—for instance, a spinal injury with paralysis from the waist down. But the overwhelming majority are psychological in their causation. Psychoanalysis has shown that most of these can be traced back to frightening experiences or the teaching of fearful attitudes towards sexuality in early childhood. Some cases of impotence can be cured by psychoanalysis, which seeks to recall the basis of the child’s anxious misunderstandings, so that they can be corrected.

Some men are impotent with most women but potent with just one. They will give up a lot to have that woman. Or they are potent only in very special circumstances.

Most men would rather suffer any other disability than impotence. This is not primarily because of the pleasure missed. It is because the core ambition, pride and satisfaction for most men is to be virile, manly. The meaning is somewhat different for each man but it may take in such aspects as showing competitiveness, courage, pugnacity, having a powerful car, earning and having money—as well as physically satisfying a woman. These aims seem related to each other, in a man’s feelings, and sexual impotence threatens them all. (However, some men with lifelong impotence have been extraordinarily productive in their careers and have had generally satisfactory marriages, so impotence is not disastrous in actuality.)

Teenager Frigidity

The sexual disturbance in girls and women which roughly corresponds to impotence in males is called frigidity. A frigid woman is unable to feel pleasure in physical contact with men, especially in intercourse. Some of these women find any sexual contact distasteful or repulsive, and intercourse actually painful

Frigidity can usually be traced to unfortunate experiences or excessively fearful attitudes acquired in early childhood. It can sometimes be cured by psychoanalysis.

There are quite a few girls and young women, especially those brought up with high ideals, who are slow to be aroused sexually and who reach orgasm infrequently or not at all. A great majority of these become progressively more responsive with time or after giving birth to their first child.

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